Dear Abby: Alcoholic sis makes tragedy worse for family

Dear Abby My father died by suicide three years ago My sister who was initially supportive later drunk-dialed our mother and noted a bunch of nasty things about her and me Mom didn t cut the conversation short and later narrated me what was stated which included that Dad had done it because my other sister and I are unstable and because he was sick I haven t talked to my alcoholic sister for a limited years now She previously ruined a family holiday with a different drunken outburst She also squandered specific money I had given her for a car I want to confront her but I know she ll deny deflect it back and try to insult me I have no time for this I am disabled with severe recurrent depression and anxiety I was the one who located Dad after the suicide and it deeply affected me I m floored that not only would my sister not understand this but that she d continue backbiting me Should I reach out and tell her why I haven t answered her texts from right after it happened She doesn t talk on the phone only texts Son Brother in Michigan Dear Son Brother Please accept my deepest sympathy for the tragic loss of your father I can t imagine the degree of shock and trauma finding him must have caused you By now you must realize that your sister is not a well woman Whoever has been telling you about the nasty things she has been saying about you should be described you no longer want to hear it This includes your mother As for confronting your sister I recommend against it She isn t going to change If you haven t been receiving help for your own issues it s time to reach out for specific You are entitled to it And for your own sake continue to avoid your sister and her toxicity Dear Abby My wife and I have been married for years Her -year-old son came to live with us four months ago He has never worked in his life and does nothing I m supporting him now Tonight my wife explained me Don t forget about the trash The pickup comes early in the morning and I know you don t want to get up at to put it out I announced Have your son do it He doesn t do anything except sleep all day and eat all night Well he s in bed already she responded So I took the trash out and finished the dishes He walked past me to go outside and have a cigarette that I bought Am I wrong to be mad My wife says I m wrong Imposed Upon in North Dakota Dear Imposed Upon You say the son is and you have been married to his mother since he was Who raised him Was he with his father Is there something wrong with him that you omitted from your letter Why is he living with you Why hasn t he discovered a job so he could contribute to his room and board When you pointed out that because you are supporting her son HE and not you should take out the garbage she should have awakened him and informed him his help was needed For your sake and his put your foot down You not only have the right to be mad but you also have the right to make your feelings known Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA