Dear Abby: Sis with dementia should not be driving

Dear Abby My oldest sister has it in her head that since she s home all week she demands to go out every Sunday She started calling me every Saturday to invite me to accompany her which I did a sparse times In doing so I realized she has mobility issues and the beginnings of dementia She wants to go to these certain places where we would reliably go Other friends and family members used to accompany her but no longer do for liability reasons Hence the reason she turned to me Apparently she refuses to accept her limitations My sister should use a walker and no longer be driving but does both I am afraid and concerned She keeps calling me every weekend and I ve already run out of excuses I feel terrible about this and don t know how to handle the situation I desperately need several advice She obviously doesn t get the hints Desperate Sis in California Dear Sis Stop hinting Talk to your other relatives about what to do if as your sister s dementia increases someone has to take her car away That she wants to get out of the house on weekends isn t surprising considering the fact that she s cooped up there all week Contact your nearest senior center and inquire about supervised events for seniors and transportation options for people with disabilities Folks with memory issues also have been known to get on the highway intending to drive to Sacramento only to wind up in San Diego because they lost their sense of direction or misremembered their destination If necessary because your sister could be a danger to herself and others on the road send a letter to the DMV Dear Abby My best friend Troy and I hang out all the time We do everything together and people often mistake us for a couple Troy wouldn t correct people until I declared something but since then I noticed how it started feeling more like a relationship We don t hold hands or kiss but he asks me what I m doing who I m with and things like that when he s not around Every time we re on the phone we say I love you to each other before hanging up I have feelings for him He says he doesn t have the same for me but he s the one who is making it feel like it s a relationship I have required him to stop because it s confusing but it only lasts for a little bit before we are right back to it I can t tell if he wants a relationship but just not with me or if he doesn t know for sure how he feels about me What can I do about this Can you help Mixed Up in Montana Dear Mixed Up You have made clear that you want a relationship with Troy He has stated plainly that he doesn t have romantic feelings for you True he enjoys your company and tells you he loves you but he doesn t hold hands or kiss you The greater part importantly he DOESN T say he is IN love with you Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about this If you are looking for a boyfriend Troy is not it You appear to be firmly in the friend zone You have my sympathy Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA